It’s amazing what we allow ourselves to be entertained at any cost.
If we could count the minutes we have wasted and then multiply that by the amount of things we could have been doing with that time…our bank accounts would be full, our families would want for nothing and our levels of achievement would be historical.
But alas we just gonna “re-up” with that income tax money.
A good female friend and I had a conversation recently about this need to waste time. She was at a gathering, met a dummy who wanted her number, and gave her some funny, assinine drunken lines. Bored, she was intrigued enough to give him her number because she wanted to be entertained. She could tell from the first sentence he wasn’t her type, intoxicated and obviously not on her educational level (Masters degree). But her boredom with the dating scene in Atlanta caused her to flip a coin and see if he was a better man in a different environment, so she gave him the number.
A few days later he calls and the conversation is pretty meaningless, but she accepts the dinner invitation anyway. In the next couple of days they go out and it is painfully obvious that he is a low-budget part-time pimp, after she has dinner at his place. He calls a few days after dinner and she finally tells him they can be friends but nothing romantic is in the works. Upon hearing this news, dude snaps and tells her she wasn’t all that anyway and he never dates low-class women like her, etc.
Now when she relays the story to me, she expects the usual supportive friend dribble – you were too good for him, how could he talk to you like that, etc.
Instead my first question is why did you give him your number?
Thus begins the debate.
I tell her that the situation was out of hand because she kept stringing him along. Of course I will agree that maybe the number at the club, hoping he was different sober was at least plausible. But after a long, full conversation where she could determine that he was a mess, that should have completed his entertainment value. I believe she brought the drama on herself, by continuing to check him out when she knew long before he was of no use to her.
We waste a lot of time on people, things, situations, relationships, etc. that are obviously not for us just because. A person deceiving you is one thing; but when we are fairly sure that this is not for us why do we just continue until it gets out of hand? wasted entertainment...
If we could count the minutes we have wasted and then multiply that by the amount of things we could have been doing with that time…our bank accounts would be full, our families would want for nothing and our levels of achievement would be historical.
But alas we just gonna “re-up” with that income tax money.
A good female friend and I had a conversation recently about this need to waste time. She was at a gathering, met a dummy who wanted her number, and gave her some funny, assinine drunken lines. Bored, she was intrigued enough to give him her number because she wanted to be entertained. She could tell from the first sentence he wasn’t her type, intoxicated and obviously not on her educational level (Masters degree). But her boredom with the dating scene in Atlanta caused her to flip a coin and see if he was a better man in a different environment, so she gave him the number.
A few days later he calls and the conversation is pretty meaningless, but she accepts the dinner invitation anyway. In the next couple of days they go out and it is painfully obvious that he is a low-budget part-time pimp, after she has dinner at his place. He calls a few days after dinner and she finally tells him they can be friends but nothing romantic is in the works. Upon hearing this news, dude snaps and tells her she wasn’t all that anyway and he never dates low-class women like her, etc.
Now when she relays the story to me, she expects the usual supportive friend dribble – you were too good for him, how could he talk to you like that, etc.
Instead my first question is why did you give him your number?
Thus begins the debate.
I tell her that the situation was out of hand because she kept stringing him along. Of course I will agree that maybe the number at the club, hoping he was different sober was at least plausible. But after a long, full conversation where she could determine that he was a mess, that should have completed his entertainment value. I believe she brought the drama on herself, by continuing to check him out when she knew long before he was of no use to her.
We waste a lot of time on people, things, situations, relationships, etc. that are obviously not for us just because. A person deceiving you is one thing; but when we are fairly sure that this is not for us why do we just continue until it gets out of hand? wasted entertainment...
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