It is such a lame tired argument. It is overused and abused and seemingly comforts old wounds. But in reality it does no such thing other than enable you to remain clueless and irresponsible. It is used to wash away your sins but to never repent for those sins. It doesn’t require you to atone for your mistakes or suffer the consequences. It allows you to walk through life blaming misfortunes on everyone except yourselves.
What do we speak? We speak of those conversations that drone on tirelessly slandering men. There are at least a million at this very second discussing how trifling men are and how they do nothing but ruin the lives of good women. The conversations are by candlelight, in bars and nightspots, seeping into sorority houses, taking place at workstations across the globe. How gratifying it is to be in agreement with so many others that a man ruined your life. His lies and unfaithfulness are part of his being and “girl don’t worry, they are all the same.”
Amazement. Awe. Hysteria. Comedy.
Sure it would feel good to vanquish my problems to a pot and stir them with others. It would be downright nice to form camaraderie with those who have suffered at the hands of another. Support groups are a beautiful thing. Singing Kum Ba Ya around a campfire with sticks while making smores is warm and cozy.
But the reality is you are a functioning, thinking human. You make your own choices and live your life.
What’s mystical is that, if we follow this logic, that inherently all (99.9%) men are prone to lies and unfaithfulness. We are also vacant of emotions or the ability to feel anything. So armed with this logic one would assume that there are very few men in good relationships and certainly none in marriages. But on the contrary there are many men in good stable relationships and many in loving marital bliss. The question persists, how is this possible, since a lot of women’s assumptions about men do not support men being capable of treating women right?
If one can prove that men are capable of “being good men,” then in a good scientific theory or just old-fashion logic you must use the “process of elimination.” So the man being inherently trifling has been proven wrong, then we must look to the woman. Wow. Dare not say that there may be a problem with the woman!
If one man dates 50 woman and ends up with the 51st woman what does that mean? It cannot mean that he is incapable of being in a good relationship because #51 is having the time of her life. It must mean that the other 50 WERE NOT FOR HIM! If an infant breaks out when eating certain foods, do you unequivocally say, “this kid is allergic to food?” and you stop feeding him? Uh no. You avoid the foods that make him sick and give him the foods he needs. Some might argue that he has matured or learned from his mistakes, etc. by the 51st woman but these extra enhancements are irrelevant to claims that buried in men's DNA is the willingness to cheat, lie and deceive women. Maturity, experiences, etc, are based on socialization and are learned traits. The argument is that we can't "help" but be this way, furthering the premise that this is in our blood, not a learned behavior.
It could be that the man is not trifling or unfaithful. It could be that you are not the one for him & that is why he is trifling and unfaithful because you two are not supposed to be together in the first place. Wow. That might actual work. Your lack of soul connection actually causes his soul to yearn more (and seek more women) for that woman that makes him want to sit down and act accordingly.
Too many times I’ve heard, “He’s got a good woman and he doesn’t even know it.” Yes he may have a good woman, but not HIS good woman, that’s why he doesn’t always act like her man.
So before we men are burned at the stake for our inability to have good relationships, it might be wise to evaluate if this man should even be coupled with this woman in the first place and you might be surprised at how many “trifling” men are really not what people say they are.
The Phoenix
What do we speak? We speak of those conversations that drone on tirelessly slandering men. There are at least a million at this very second discussing how trifling men are and how they do nothing but ruin the lives of good women. The conversations are by candlelight, in bars and nightspots, seeping into sorority houses, taking place at workstations across the globe. How gratifying it is to be in agreement with so many others that a man ruined your life. His lies and unfaithfulness are part of his being and “girl don’t worry, they are all the same.”
Amazement. Awe. Hysteria. Comedy.
Sure it would feel good to vanquish my problems to a pot and stir them with others. It would be downright nice to form camaraderie with those who have suffered at the hands of another. Support groups are a beautiful thing. Singing Kum Ba Ya around a campfire with sticks while making smores is warm and cozy.
But the reality is you are a functioning, thinking human. You make your own choices and live your life.
What’s mystical is that, if we follow this logic, that inherently all (99.9%) men are prone to lies and unfaithfulness. We are also vacant of emotions or the ability to feel anything. So armed with this logic one would assume that there are very few men in good relationships and certainly none in marriages. But on the contrary there are many men in good stable relationships and many in loving marital bliss. The question persists, how is this possible, since a lot of women’s assumptions about men do not support men being capable of treating women right?
If one can prove that men are capable of “being good men,” then in a good scientific theory or just old-fashion logic you must use the “process of elimination.” So the man being inherently trifling has been proven wrong, then we must look to the woman. Wow. Dare not say that there may be a problem with the woman!
If one man dates 50 woman and ends up with the 51st woman what does that mean? It cannot mean that he is incapable of being in a good relationship because #51 is having the time of her life. It must mean that the other 50 WERE NOT FOR HIM! If an infant breaks out when eating certain foods, do you unequivocally say, “this kid is allergic to food?” and you stop feeding him? Uh no. You avoid the foods that make him sick and give him the foods he needs. Some might argue that he has matured or learned from his mistakes, etc. by the 51st woman but these extra enhancements are irrelevant to claims that buried in men's DNA is the willingness to cheat, lie and deceive women. Maturity, experiences, etc, are based on socialization and are learned traits. The argument is that we can't "help" but be this way, furthering the premise that this is in our blood, not a learned behavior.
It could be that the man is not trifling or unfaithful. It could be that you are not the one for him & that is why he is trifling and unfaithful because you two are not supposed to be together in the first place. Wow. That might actual work. Your lack of soul connection actually causes his soul to yearn more (and seek more women) for that woman that makes him want to sit down and act accordingly.
Too many times I’ve heard, “He’s got a good woman and he doesn’t even know it.” Yes he may have a good woman, but not HIS good woman, that’s why he doesn’t always act like her man.
So before we men are burned at the stake for our inability to have good relationships, it might be wise to evaluate if this man should even be coupled with this woman in the first place and you might be surprised at how many “trifling” men are really not what people say they are.
The Phoenix
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