Begin to see through others eyes.
It’s a hard thing to do…particularly around the holiday season when you come into contact with friends, old acquaintances, and family that you may not normally see. All of us have been filled with what we think is success. It comes from many sources – family, school, church, media, etc. and depending on your background your idea of success can differ greatly from someone that even grew up in the same house as you.
I have to constantly remind myself to see through others eyes.
So many times we want to force our value systems, ideals, and aspirations on other people, not realizing that their life is theirs to construct and enjoy.
Because you will be the happiest when you get that Masters degree, church wedding, and the 5 bedroom house doesn’t mean that the mechanic that has no degree, is divorced, and lives in a 2 bedroom apartment is not having the time of his life.
Think of what kind of world this we be if we were all doctors, lawyers, CEOs and judges? Somebody has to like serving the community. Somebody has to like repairing cars. Somebody has to like growing food or just being a cashier at Wal-Mart.
Every life cannot be graded by a certain standard with set parameters. We are all different and thus what makes us happy and content is going to differ.
It’s hard but it’s necessary to see through others eyes so that you can enjoy your own life. When you cannot expand your acceptance of levels of contentment you put unneeded pressure on your own life as well as make it hard for you to deal with others as they are, instead of how you think they should or could be.
Some things should not be sacrificed. Things moral or ethical should never be relinquished; most of the time how we judge people’s lives has nothing to do with ethics or morals, but simply on the personal preferences of how we in fact judge our own lives. We simply magically transform preferences into spiritual and moral laws.
Begin to see through others eyes.
It’s a hard thing to do…particularly around the holiday season when you come into contact with friends, old acquaintances, and family that you may not normally see. All of us have been filled with what we think is success. It comes from many sources – family, school, church, media, etc. and depending on your background your idea of success can differ greatly from someone that even grew up in the same house as you.
I have to constantly remind myself to see through others eyes.
So many times we want to force our value systems, ideals, and aspirations on other people, not realizing that their life is theirs to construct and enjoy.
Because you will be the happiest when you get that Masters degree, church wedding, and the 5 bedroom house doesn’t mean that the mechanic that has no degree, is divorced, and lives in a 2 bedroom apartment is not having the time of his life.
Think of what kind of world this we be if we were all doctors, lawyers, CEOs and judges? Somebody has to like serving the community. Somebody has to like repairing cars. Somebody has to like growing food or just being a cashier at Wal-Mart.
Every life cannot be graded by a certain standard with set parameters. We are all different and thus what makes us happy and content is going to differ.
It’s hard but it’s necessary to see through others eyes so that you can enjoy your own life. When you cannot expand your acceptance of levels of contentment you put unneeded pressure on your own life as well as make it hard for you to deal with others as they are, instead of how you think they should or could be.
Some things should not be sacrificed. Things moral or ethical should never be relinquished; most of the time how we judge people’s lives has nothing to do with ethics or morals, but simply on the personal preferences of how we in fact judge our own lives. We simply magically transform preferences into spiritual and moral laws.
Begin to see through others eyes.
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